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Hard to call it a breakup because we weren't really dating but the chick I've been seeing broke things off last night because, long story short, she's not over her ex. That's probably good in the long run, but at the moment it sucks.

1. being rejected is shitty
2. being rejected in favor of another dude she also rejected but still has feelings for is shittier
3. being rejected after making it clear that the only red line was that she be working on getting over the other dude, her agreeing to that, then getting all weird a few days ago and lying about why even when i asked point-blank about it, sleeping with her a couple of times but not having sex because of said weirdness -- is even shittier

Texted with my friend about it this morning (her night, she's in DC), and she pointed out that it's not personal, for her (the girl here) it's about herself and her feelings for this other guy and the fact that she likes me -- which she does -- is in the background. Also that if the girl is dealing with internal shit then it's way better to have a clean break than be ambiguous about shit. That's true, but still feeling hurt/pissed.

I'll get over it, just feeling a little bit emo today.

ETA: After cooling down a bit, and FB messaging with the chick, I had an epiphany. Namely, that I have been taking our relationship way too seriously. She's leaving the country for good in May, it's not like we have a future together. And she's cool and hot and fun in bed and she likes me and wants to have sex with me, too. Would be dumb to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Sure, it would be weird if she invites her ex to Pakistan for a week or goes back to Bahrain to sleep with him for a week. But if I'm also not monogamous with her then it'd be less weird. Letting my internal expectations/status-meter get way ahead of where we decided to be at -- and we'd talked about it several times -- was not good. Didn't quite realize how far ahead I'd gotten until she hit me with the "I'm not ready to be done romantically with ex" yesterday.

Still need a bit of time to get over the shock of having my quasi-unacknowledged feelings scrambled. Not gonna rush back into bed with her, even though she expressly told me her door's open. But I think getting over it can, if I want it to, mean that we're FWB. I think that'd be cool.

Id go for it, its rare to find a girl that is fine with hooking up without hidden motives.

Damn man situations like this are tough, maybe it's that being caught somewhere in between yellow light feeling that makes it so. If she's open and honest with you it would definitely makes things easier and could help give you a different perspective on relationships that will help you in the long run.

On the other hand, if you don't like how it feels there's only so much you can rationalize to yourself. If those feelings are strong and it gets to be unhealthy it doesn't make sense to keep pushing yourself through it. I've definitely felt that way before and just said fuck this its not worth it. I guess it depends on how much of the shittiness you feel now you're willing to keep feeling for that person. Dunno if that's the right advice for you but its just what I've experienced personally.

yesterday

- hike x ~1 hour
just up into the hills and back down with a friend

today

ACHES/INJURIES: right knee a bit, right ankle a bit, lower gut
SORENESS: none
MENTAL STATE: a bit out of sorts

- warm up

- superset x 2
-- plate jump squat +15s x 5
-- ME SVJ x 3
not so good

- squat 140 x 1
felt off, ankle and knee bugging

- pull up x 8,8,6+1+1

- DB OHP 16s x 8,8

- stretch

glad i dragged myself through that but i just feel off.

Ultimate as in ultimate frisbee?  If so that shit was fun in gym, minus the girls that just stood around and got in everyones way.

yoga FTW.

I need a lady to go with me so as to not be the creeper.

Quote from: LBSS on February 15, 2017, 10:26:49 am

yep, ultimate frisbee. fun sport, used to play competitively, sprained my ankle six times, got fed up, retired. just started playing again after moving to islamabad just as a way to meet people. quality is similar to gym class but it's fun.

Hows the Ultimate scene in Pakistan? Do you go to different pickups or just the one? Is there a more competitive level of play there like a worlds team or is Ultimate something people do entirely for fun? Do you teach people a ton of stuff about frisbee to get it past "gym class" quality, or are you content to just play around and chat people up?

there's only one pickup game in islamabad that i know of, would be shocked if there were another. there is no competitive play here at all. there may be in other cities but i don't think so, it's really just an expat (white) sport. the skill level apparently waxes and wanes over time -- one of the guys who founded the pickup game here is a former sockeye player, but he's long gone. i've tried a bit to get people to do the basics better, e.g. form a stack and run something approximating the stanford offense, but like half the people don't even know what a force is. and i'm content to just run around amongst the chaos.

last night

- rest

EDIT: redacted because christ i can't believe i even put that up there. whoever downvoted, thank you. 

lol don't sweat it man everyone gets excited and says/does some ish time to time. +1 to balance you out.