Maybe you both just need more volume, after listening to layne norton? i think thats his name, I increased the number of sets from a warm up set then 3-4 working sets ex. 135, 225, 275, 315, 325 to multiple sets. Ex. 135,185,205,225,250,275,300,315, 325 etc etc etc. I've had a 440lb bench before so if you guys need advice on it then lemme know, sadly enough the best thing I know how to do is increase my bench.