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Quote from: Mutumbo000 on November 29, 2017, 04:03:48 am

Quote from: LBSS on November 29, 2017, 12:35:56 am

https://www.goodtherapy.com.au/

therapy is good. if i lived in a place with good therapists (or any therapists), i would be in therapy.

She was the one throwing bottles and chairs at me!!!

The chair I threw into the ceiling was in retaliation.

therapy is for everyone. that wasn't meant only for you. my best friend and his then-gf were having issues a few years ago - not violent ones like you're talking about but still seriously challenging their relationship - and they decided to go to therapy together. it saved their relationship and now they're happily married and still, less frequently, going to therapy just to check in.

So quick recap from the last week.

Biggest lesson learned, which I thought I learned last year at basically the EXACT SAME TIME (fml), is: when you are feeling great, do not hold back, push hard and empty the tank.

Last year around the same time, I had a 5k where I PR’d massively (18:22 official, 18:16 watch), but I held back the last mile because I didn’t want to completely drain myself for the Turkey Trot 5k which was ~5 days later. Then in the turkey trot, I was dead, but still hit 18:29. So I told myself, man when I feel as good as I did on that 18:22 day, don’t hold back, take what the moment (and your body) gives you.

Fast forward to last week: I hit my 18:05 official (17:51 watch) 5k. The goal there was a hard 2 miles, and then shut it down but try and maintain sub 6 pace for the third. I achieved that, but, I should have pushed harder because I felt incredible. I should have aborted that plan at the time, and shifted into “empty the tank” mode. Because my plan was created with the Turkey Trot 5k in mind once again. And once again, I had issues in that race (19:17 official). FWIW, I felt very fast and I think I could have set another massive PR had I not had stomach issues during that first mile, which shut me down. But it comes back to that point about, if everything is clicking, just go for it, don’t hesitate and think about some magical performance that in reality may not happen.

That’s one example of how my mindset differs completely with dunking. When I was dunking, if out of nowhere I felt incredible & I could just feel myself ready to hit my best jumps ever, it was game on. Immediate flip of the switch mentally, and 100% full attack mode until I was toast. With running & races, this idea about the future sometimes holds me back and I really need to make sure to avoid that from now on. I’m not in that “stage” yet, I have some serious improvements I need to make. So if in training, or during some unimportant race, out of nowhere I feel ready to PR etc, just go for it. Something i’ll keep in mind.

TLDR: continue listening to my body but also, if my body is firing on all cylinders, don’t hold back based on some dreams of some magical performance in X race etc - take advantage of it and push the limits then and there.