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Friday - 09/20/19
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-= Workout Log =-

DB Rear Delt Flyes on Incline
20's x 10
20's x 8
20's x 6

DB Rear Delt W Flyes on Incline
20's x 15
20's x 15
20's x 12

Seated Strict Lateral Raises
20's x 15 >> 60sec rests.
20's x 12
20's x 8
15's x 15
15's x 12

Bent Over Barbell Rows
135 x 3
185 x 1
195 x 5
195 x 5
195 x 5

Chin Ups
+40 x 6
+40 x 5
+40 x 4

T-Bar Rows
+115 x 6
+115 x 6

Chin Ups
BW x 9
BW x 7

Workout felt great! Already seeing a difference in size/definition in my upper body from this higher volume. Could just be the pump that lasts a few days, but it's still providing me nice motivation. I didn't feel dead by the end of this workout either.

I've been hitting shoulders before back now (instead of after), and starting them with the rear delts. I've been doing this for about a year now and definitely noticed a big difference in shoulder size. They use to be lagging quite a lot, but they've caught up a bit now.

Men need to be men and women need to be women.

This pretty much sums it up! There's some kind of "culture war" or maybe ideological war on masculinity and it's very annoying.

And people are too stuck in their binary thinking ways, whether its this topic, or politics, or whatever. Tell someone you don't like trump and they'll assume you love hilary. Meanwhile I don't like either. Tell someone you want to be muscular/masculine and they'll assume you also want to break women's hearts, get into fights, be rude, when you don't. That's an issue a lot of people have with their mode of thinking, it's too binary.

Some random advices pulled from /r/deadbeadroom on reddit from different threads:

"Plan a day where the kids go to her parents house so the two of you can have a lunch date then talk at home privately. Tell her how you really feel. That it hurts you. Her feelings aren't the only ones that should matter in your marriage."
"I would first sit down with her and tell her how you are feeling, calmly, but all of it - and then, just as importantly if not more, ask her what her reasons are for not wanting sex"

Do people actually think these kinds of approaches are going to sexually arouse a woman? They act like they can negotiate sexual arousal! These men have to first look at themselves. Are they keeping up with their appearances, or did they let themselves go once getting married? Are they desirable? Do they still flirt with their wives and tease her and make her laugh and be unpredictable with her? Do they drop their important tasks at work just to respond to a non-important text of hers every single time? Do they go to the gym, fix their hair, dress decent, smell nice? Do they take the lead in important matters or are they complacent with everything? Do they tell her "no" when it's the right thing to do, or do they give in every time just to please her?

These men have to make themselves attractive before thinking something is wrong with their wives not wanting sex with them. But the problem is, we are being raised in a society where "toxic masculinity" has blurred the lines between a masculine gentleman and a masculine abuser. Getting a six pack doesn't automatically mean you're now rude and abrasive. Taking the lead in important matters doesn't automatically mean you walk over your wife and dont take her needs and opinions into consideration. Telling her "no" doesn't mean she doesn't have a say - it means when something isn't right, you let her know that. Let her know she should not do XYZ which is unethical, or unconducive to some goals, or whatever. But that is what "toxic masculinity" will have you think...

man i went off in your log, sorry bro! nice uh... athleticism   

Quote from: Dreyth on September 14, 2019, 08:16:31 pm

have you been redpilled on women yet

ACTUALLY, a lot of that is why I left this time. I've read Rollos books and a lot of other psychological material in regards to relationships and women and life in general and the more I read the more I realized my "gut" has always been correct but I have always erred to the "nice guy" side of life just out of respect and how I was raised. Occasionally I'd feel at odds with myself (best explanation I have) over certain decisions in life. That was my baser instinct being at odds with my brains ingrained/learned behaviors. So, yes. Now, do I adhere to the pick up artists and, IMO, "darker" side of the red pill? No. But I am learning to balance my baser self within societal norms. I'm sure it will help with women yes but it also helps in work relationships greatly. The few things I've always felt were true but just needed hammered home were: actions>words, options are power, and the myth of "the one". All of these I'd seen in action and I'd recognized subconsciously but never put 1 and 1 together. I've always been called a "charming/loveable/etc asshole" by both genders and I always thought it was because I always speak my mind but genuinely do have a big heart and love to help people. Now I see its that combined with a strong dose of unknown red pill I never realized I had/was using.

That's a short cliffs lol! I continue to learn daily and am at total peace with my decisions and actions now a days. I'm not "100% red" I guess because I still base decisions around my daughter but it is what it is. She's my blessing and joy and comes first always!

theres so much stupid stuff out there lol. i knew a guy who would read pua stuff and its like he could never be himself. I picked up on it easily b/c i knew where it was coming from, but one of my clueless friends even said it's like everything is... robotic? planned? it was highly annoying

I just liked reading about boosting confidence and about how women can be just as evil, or more evil, than men. everyone already knows that many men (not all) lie, cheat, steal, hide intentions, etc. It's just more eye opening to hear about women doing it because for whatever reason (media, culture, etc) we are not expecting it. that and the fact that they are attracted to exactly who they say they arent attracted to. "I'd rather have a nice guy than a guy with a six pack." Yeah, for stability you do, but not for sex you liar. you're right about actions > words!

Also, go on reddit and see the advice people give for dead bedrooms. its pitiful lol. people thinking that doing the dishes will turn on their wife because "she will have less on her mind and therefore be more relaxed for sex" while they have turned into fat slobs, never keep up their appearance, lose their manhood, etc

its just that the thing i hate most about "redpilled men" are the fact that they think being a man means being extra harsh and abrasive and stuff. never allowed to be nice. everything is egotistical. as you said, it's about your daughter first!

anyway, cool to see how much of your athleticism you can keep even if inactive for a while at times. the opposite of me lol

have you been redpilled on women yet

Cant seem to figure out how to do dips without discomfort where my pecs meet my delts
I used to love them though!

Benched 8x4 @ 195lbs. Felt great. Nearly failed on the final rep of the last set. Then inclined DB 60x15, 12.

Smolov jr inspired benching. My plan is to bench 3x/week: one day of 7x5, another of 8x4, and then a light day working up to a 90% single or so. I want to get back to repping 2 plates again!

Completed my hajj   

Barely lifted, also got sick during it. And there was TONS of walking in intense heat, and barely any sleep was had. I didnt expect it to be so difficult.

Dropped to 182lbs and not even fasted. Lost a lot of strength and muscle. Im supposed to be crazy cut at 182 but nope! incline db dropped to 85x5. Wow. Just benched today and managed 185x5. But to be fair, i never bench anymore

Despicable numbers lol. Should start logging every workout again