My sister died on 30th February 2023. I have to take a break from everything, although I might go back to the gym just to take my mind off it. She had a food addiction, she basically lived to eat, so she got heavier and fatter week by week until she was 162 kg at 1.65m tall. Her oxygen levels went as low as 60 or even in the 50s and she refused to go to the hospital (she went there a few times, the ambulance also gave her oxygen a few times).
We found her dead after Sunday's night, she died in her sleep. She was 48 years old. I sometimes think I might be going crazy, soon, although I'm trying to keep it together.
Oh man, Raptor, I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. It's horrible to lose a sibling, even when you can see it coming. I lost my brother in January 2018, after watching him struggle for years with addiction (drugs, in his case) and mental illness. IME, the grief never goes away but time does help it recede.
I'm sorry to hear that. Yes, it's bad. You always wonder if you could have done something more to save him/her, but the truth is that nobody appointed you to be a superhero that always comes to save the day. The truth is that she did all these excesses "freely" (whether you can call that action "free" considering it's a mental illness is another discussion). She willingly and knowingly poured oil, salt (sometimes for 10 seconds straight she would put salt in her food) and refused to do any kind of physical activity. She didn't even want to put money to buy an oxygen machine!
She had borderline personality disorder and no psychiatrist cared enough to suggest a psychotherapist or an actual treatment scheme.
She also called about 120 ambulances in the last few years and none of them tried to convince her too much that an oxygen under 70 is bad enough to go to the hospital. They would ask and she would say "no" and they would just go their merry way, like nothing happened.
A pinnacle of incompetence, carelessness, lack of culture, you name it. It seemed the only way to save her was violence, but then you'd bump into other kinds of ethical issues.
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